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Finding Non-Lawyer Divorce Guides

During thirty-five years as a matrimonial lawyer, I’ve seen too many folks stumble over the same duet of obstacles: (1) lack of knowledge and (2) anxiety. Non-Lawyer Sherpas So where do you find the divorce advice and information that will allow you to calm down and think clearly? Your first instinct might be to look

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Divorce Legal Fee Saver #4:

Be Your Own Paralegal Paralegals’ billing rates are much lower than those of attorneys, so you’d prefer that paralegals perform the more routine tasks in your divorce case. But you can avoid fees altogether by having someone else perform paralegal tasks. Who? You! Discuss with your lawyer doing work yourself such as gathering, copying, scanning

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Divorce Legal Fee Saver Tip #3:

Save a Bundle of Legal Fees With Unbundled Representation There’s something really special about sitting in court with your lawyer waiting for your case to be called while the clock ticks away dollars from your wallet into your lawyer’s. And it’s especially painful if you’re waiting for something like a status conference that you could

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Divorce Legal Fee Saver #2

Saving Attorneys’ Fees in Divorce: Pay Less with Good Timing If you can afford a divorce lawyer, you should hire one. There’s too much at stake and too many complexities in divorce to risk “winging it” without expert advice. However, you can save some money by delaying hiring a lawyer while you take care of

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DIVORCE LEGAL FEE SAVER #1

What your divorce lawyer’s hourly rate doesn’t tell you Q: When does a 3-minute call from a divorce lawyer who charges $300 per hour cost MORE than the same call from a lawyer who charges $400/hr.? A: When the $300/hr. lawyer charges in increments of 2/10 of an hour, and the $400/hr. lawyer charges in

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Your Kids’ 4 Divorce Must-Haves

Using Mindful Parenting to Respond to Children’s Greatest Needs Among the most frequently asked questions by new divorce clients is: “Will my kids be okay?” The answer is that whether the children do well or poorly depends largely upon whether the adults act appropriately.    Easy to say; not so easy for the adults to

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CUSTODY BATTLE MYTH #8: “Not everything about the custody process is bad—it’s better than lawyers doing it all behind closed doors.”

This is the final myth David & Laura Sherwood voice to rationalize their custody case in the custody film Talk to Strangers. They are about to learn that for their kids, everything about the custody case IS bad. In the “exit interview,” with the fictional filmmaker, Laura dials back her initial confidence, conceding that the

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CUSTODY BATTLE MYTH #7 “Judges protect children.”

This is 1 of 8 myths voiced by parents David & Laura Sherwood to rationalize their custody battle in #TalktoStrangersFilm. It reflects the parents’ sincere though misguided confidence in their ability to protect 9-year-old Nicholas and 12-year-old Emily during the custody case. As with all the myths that the parents articulate in the opening sequence,

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CUSTODY BATTLE MYTH #6: “The custody evaluation process is designed to protect children and is implemented by professionals acting on the children’s behalf.”

This is one of eight myths voiced by parents David & Laura Sherwood to rationalize their custody battle in #TalktoStrangersFilm, reflecting their misguided belief that they and the court system can protect their children. Contrary to the assertion by David (02:35)[1], the custody evaluation process is NOT designed to protect children. It is designed to

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CUSTODY BATTLE MYTH #5 “Kids want to be heard, and the custody process gives them that opportunity.”

This is 1 of 8 myths voiced by parents David & Laura Sherwood to rationalize their custody battle in #TalktoStrangersFilm. It reflects the parents’ sincere though misguided confidence in their ability to protect 9-year-old Nicholas and 12-year-old Emily during the custody case. Like the other myths Mom and Dad articulate, this one contains a kernel

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